Sometimes we need harsh words

I've only been around/in the jiu jitsu world for about a year but it doesn't take this long nor long at all to realize that it's a long-term commitment that will push you, reward you, test you and make you feel things you have never felt before-- and we all know that's not just sore muscles. How many times have you been so frustrated that you feel like a total failure after a day of training? Or how about feeling like you've plateaued and have become bored with the routine of training? What about an injury putting you out of training all together for an extended amount of time and being forced to break up the consistency of your game and learning process? There are so many things that come between a student and a good day of training, a win in a competition, the next stripe...a black belt. A few months ago I jotted down some frustrations that weren't even regarding bjj but after coming across it again I think it can easily be applied. It comes off harsh but it's my reality and a great deal of where I come from and believe others should institute it as well. Too often we settle for less and avoid taking our training and even losses into our own hands. Take responsibility and give credit where/when its due.
"I don't understand people who become passive when shit happens in their lives. Whatever happened to being a go-getter? When one thing doesn't go your way do you give up and say it wasn't meant to be? Do you choose a different path because there's an obstacle? Do you live with a safety net so that when shit gets real you can take yourself out by saying it was out of your hands? No. There's no destined path for why or how events happen in our lives. Most of the time it's your fault, you just can't own up to it. You weren't paying attention, you didn't run fast enough, you didn't wake up early enough. You blame it on something else because you didn't go that extra ounce, inch or mile to get what you wanted so you settle and allow your life to be put into hands other than your own. Life is not about destinies and "meant to be"'s. Life is about choices and sticking to goals, no matter how big or small, through whatever hardship there might be. And I'm not talking about long shots, I'm talking about any situation that would give someone an opportunity to say "Everything happens for a reason." It doesn't. Shit happens and then we settle and make up excuses to relieve ourselves of all responsibility. No, one thing doesn't happen so that someone or something better can come along. Grow up. Yes coincidences occur, but the second you rely on causes that are above you, you're removing your responsibilities and surrendering your own freedoms. So the next time you run into a mishap, try searching for the true problem and continue on rather than taking a detour."